Instituting Parental Controls

As a youth sports coach, you may come across the uncomfortable problem of an over-involved parent - and that’s putting it nicely. In reality, some parents’ behavior can be downright abusive as they assail their young athlete or the opponent with orders and inappropriate words from the stands. Worse yet are those parents who continue that maltreatment when the player arrives at home.

This is a serious issue that requires plenty of attention. Sports team websites have information and advice for coaches who encounter this situation, and those team managers would be best suited by doing all the research they can. At its lightest, the parental outbursts are embarrassing and psychologically damaging for the athlete. At its worst, it’s an issue that transcends the game and requires broader action.

You should be a lifeline for players that need it. Reach out whenever possible and let them know you can support them and help resolve whatever issue arises. Here are three things to consider:

1. You are the authority on the court.
Don’t let parents be bullies - to players or to you. On the field of play, you are the highest team authority. If you believe a parent is becoming a distraction to the game, or worse, it is your responsibility to have the parent removed or see to it that he or she is brought down a few notches. You might not be able to control their behavior everywhere, but when you do have that authority, you must use it.

2. You are a liaison.
Kids suffering abuse - any kind, and any severity - are often uncomfortable to bring it up, as they fear it will only make matters worse. You need to make sure your players are aware from the onset of the season that if there is any issue, sports-related or otherwise, you can be of assistance.

3. You have an obligation.
Too many times, coaches, teachers, or other authority figures have looked the other way in the face of abuse. That makes them as culpable as the offending party. Don’t count yourself among those ranks - if there is any sign of misconduct or player maltreatment, you must report it.

When you put up your sport team website, make a point to outline your policy on abuse, be it verbal or physical, parental or player-to-player. As long as everyone is clear on the terms, you can take action as you see fit with a clear conscience.